I love my wife more than I ever thought possible. She is an amazing, gorgeous person and I still cannot believe she agreed to marry me. I would still choose to marry her every single day, somehow even more so now than when we actually got married.
She has demons and burdens that she carries. She has many trust, depression, and anxiety issues. Some stemming from her service in the Coast Guard, some from earlier parts of her life. She deals with, and will continue to deal with, these internal struggles every day of her life.
These are NOT flaws or hindrances that stop her from living. They are processes her brain goes through to make sure she doesn't get hurt again. And despite these extra steps her brain has to take she is somehow a brilliant mother and wife who deserves nothing but good in her life.
I say all this as preface. Anyone who knows her SHOULD know these things. If you don't then you're not paying attention.
I know a blog may be a lame place to make a declaration but it's the only place I have.
Those of you who feel the need to criticize and condemn everything you dislike; who vilify anything contrary to your personal stance; who feel like you are entitled to say something because of your position or relationship; who do or say things because it's "for her own good": You can fuck right off. Our lives are not yours to decide. Our lives are not an open forum to play in after you've fucked your life all to hell.
If you think this rant is about you, you're probably right. If you have a disagreement with something we've said or done, keep it to your fucking self.
This started as a post about my wife and the shitbags in her life, but it's turning into a post defending my wife and anyone who is persecuted.
This country has turned into a totem pole of fuckery. We're constantly bombarded with information which tells us if you're not a rich, heterosexual, white man then you're wrong and you can't climb to the top of the pole.
Fuck that.
She has demons and burdens that she carries. She has many trust, depression, and anxiety issues. Some stemming from her service in the Coast Guard, some from earlier parts of her life. She deals with, and will continue to deal with, these internal struggles every day of her life.
These are NOT flaws or hindrances that stop her from living. They are processes her brain goes through to make sure she doesn't get hurt again. And despite these extra steps her brain has to take she is somehow a brilliant mother and wife who deserves nothing but good in her life.
I say all this as preface. Anyone who knows her SHOULD know these things. If you don't then you're not paying attention.
I know a blog may be a lame place to make a declaration but it's the only place I have.
Those of you who feel the need to criticize and condemn everything you dislike; who vilify anything contrary to your personal stance; who feel like you are entitled to say something because of your position or relationship; who do or say things because it's "for her own good": You can fuck right off. Our lives are not yours to decide. Our lives are not an open forum to play in after you've fucked your life all to hell.
If you think this rant is about you, you're probably right. If you have a disagreement with something we've said or done, keep it to your fucking self.
This started as a post about my wife and the shitbags in her life, but it's turning into a post defending my wife and anyone who is persecuted.
This country has turned into a totem pole of fuckery. We're constantly bombarded with information which tells us if you're not a rich, heterosexual, white man then you're wrong and you can't climb to the top of the pole.
Fuck that.
You want to get covered in tattoos because you think it will look awesome now AND when you're 80? You're right!
You think tattoos are dumb and don't want to pollute your body? You're right!
You made a bad decision (or more likely someone else's bad decision happened to you) and now you feel like an abortion is your best/only option? You're right!
You got pregnant, don't want/can't keep the baby, but you don't want an abortion and feel like adoption is your best/only option? You're right!
You're a 16 year old boy and you think you might like to try kissing a boy? You're right!
You're a 16 year old boy who loves kissing girls but can't see yourself ever kissing a boy? You're right!
You think Jesus is our one true savior and you'll follow his teachings and worship him everyday? You're right!
You think Jesus is a bunch of fairytale, fanfiction bullshit made up and hijacked to keep ignorant people under control? You're right!
My point is, you will always find someone who thinks they know how to live your life better than you do. That's absolute garbage. Do what you want. The decisions that you make for yourself ARE the right decisions and will get you where you need to go.
"But what if a person's decisions lead them to kill someone else?" I'm obviously not talking about those kinds of decisions you pedantic moron.
Parents, teachers, preachers, and anyone who thinks they're higher up or better off in life will always feel like they can help guide you. There's nothing wrong with that feeling. But when it crosses the line and becomes badgering or insulting you to try to force you to make the decisions they want you to make then it's turned into background noise. That's exactly how you have to treat it. You can't even dignify it with an argument. It's static on the radio signal barely audible behind your favorite song.
There are so many amazing people in this world who expend all their daily effort struggling with themselves and don't have time to defend themselves from meddlesome motherfuckers whose selfish ulterior motives are so transparent they're hardly ulterior.
My wife is one of these people. People fighting more inner demons than most others can fathom AND having to defend themselves from people close to them hellbent on maintaining their power-hold.
When you meet one of these warriors, you'll see their struggle. It will be etched in their speech and mannerisms. Be there for them. Don't try to help them through their problems. Just shut your mouth and be there for them. Don't give suggestions about how they can overcome. Open your ears and be there for them. Don't try to see the other side of the story. Open your mind and be there for them.
In the end, that's all they're asking for.
You think tattoos are dumb and don't want to pollute your body? You're right!
You made a bad decision (or more likely someone else's bad decision happened to you) and now you feel like an abortion is your best/only option? You're right!
You got pregnant, don't want/can't keep the baby, but you don't want an abortion and feel like adoption is your best/only option? You're right!
You're a 16 year old boy and you think you might like to try kissing a boy? You're right!
You're a 16 year old boy who loves kissing girls but can't see yourself ever kissing a boy? You're right!
You think Jesus is our one true savior and you'll follow his teachings and worship him everyday? You're right!
You think Jesus is a bunch of fairytale, fanfiction bullshit made up and hijacked to keep ignorant people under control? You're right!
My point is, you will always find someone who thinks they know how to live your life better than you do. That's absolute garbage. Do what you want. The decisions that you make for yourself ARE the right decisions and will get you where you need to go.
"But what if a person's decisions lead them to kill someone else?" I'm obviously not talking about those kinds of decisions you pedantic moron.
Parents, teachers, preachers, and anyone who thinks they're higher up or better off in life will always feel like they can help guide you. There's nothing wrong with that feeling. But when it crosses the line and becomes badgering or insulting you to try to force you to make the decisions they want you to make then it's turned into background noise. That's exactly how you have to treat it. You can't even dignify it with an argument. It's static on the radio signal barely audible behind your favorite song.
There are so many amazing people in this world who expend all their daily effort struggling with themselves and don't have time to defend themselves from meddlesome motherfuckers whose selfish ulterior motives are so transparent they're hardly ulterior.
My wife is one of these people. People fighting more inner demons than most others can fathom AND having to defend themselves from people close to them hellbent on maintaining their power-hold.
When you meet one of these warriors, you'll see their struggle. It will be etched in their speech and mannerisms. Be there for them. Don't try to help them through their problems. Just shut your mouth and be there for them. Don't give suggestions about how they can overcome. Open your ears and be there for them. Don't try to see the other side of the story. Open your mind and be there for them.
In the end, that's all they're asking for.